When I started writing blogs at initial stage, I shared a situation where I lost my friend in my life because of trust issues and after that situation I promised myself that I have to start trusting people no matter what the situation is.
But you know, when u start trusting and believing everyone around you that these people are innocent kind good, and you ignore all their bad just by trusting, it is the day u will start fooling urself.
Trust not only comes from the words, it will come from the actions also. you have to know who is Ram and Ravan? But I Strongly feel that now-a-days both Ram and Ravan will be in the same person because it’s Kali yuga and people around me are proving it. I am not saying that everyone are like that but I am unlucky and bad that I have such kind of people in my life.
Now I have to tell a story of my friend, firstly she is most dumbest person that I ever have in my life because She is naive, Blindly loyal, Caring, Unquestioning and Over-attached. you are confused right why I told she is dumbest you will know at the end of these blog. And I have to tell Sorry to my friend for Sharing it here.
She has a beautiful joint family, friends and achieved one of her dream job that she wanted to do in her life. She is so excited and a bit tense about the new job. Slowly she started meeting new people in her life and she started welcoming everyone into her life by trusting. She is happy about her job and started enjoying her life. She started treating family members with her first salary.
she made nice friends in office and started enjoying as her life. One day, From one of those Colleagues she met a person called X. Initially they used to be friends like others but suddenly one day these X has emotional breakdown and started sharing about his past life like about his family, habits and trauma love story. My emotional fool friend became so connected and she wanted to bring him out of that trauma and that decision changed her life. She shouldn’t have taken that decision in her life.
My friend started talking to X everyday, its like the day starts with him and ends with him. At some point of time my friend started understanding that she is emotional connecting so much to X and she wanted to avoid him but he made her emotionally weak by his calls, messages and X started behaving like “my friend is everything to him now”, and he told that “he is unlucky so my friend is also leaving him alone now” after listening to him She became emotional and started talking to him again just to bring him out of his trauma life and decided to be with him. So in the process of bringing X out of his trauma she fell in love with him because of his care and love towards my friend. They started spending more time together and they both gradually fell in love.
But one day on X phone my friend saw a pic of him with another girl in a hugging form,for a split second. My friend saw and X off his phone immediately. My friend literally got shocked and didn’t even talk anything and She became complete silent for a moment. Later it started killing her inside to ask him or not.
One day she finally asked about the pic to X and he told its an old pics with his ex-gf that got automatically restored because of latest backup. My friend is not ready to accept it, but X became emotional and started crying. Then he said ” it’s past pics, I am not cheating you and please trust me” they literally had a big fight for that pic between them. So my friend felt bad for doubting X for those pics that she saw in his phone so my friend has decided to never touch or see X phone to avoid these misunderstandings.
Again one day when X is with my friend , X got a call from his ex-gf. So again same fight trauma happened between them. So my friend told X, to tell his ex-gf about their relationship and keep an end to it. Because my friend didn’t liked that X is talking to his ex-gf. He promised that he will keep an End. So again my friend started trusting X.
Within few months my friend completely became blind in X love. Because of marriage pressure from Home, My friend left her own family and married him. His Husband became her Complete world to her. But the decision of coming out from home for his husband(X) has changed my friend’s life. It became a trauma like a roller-coaster ride, these emotions go from high to low and back again, often in a short span of time.
All of sudden from joint family she became alone and my friend always wanted to spend more time with his husband so that she will not feel alone. But his husband started behaving strange then slowly she started getting doubt on his husband that he has someone in his life. But every time his husband used to say to my friend that, u r not trusting me and doubting me this is not a way of wife to doubt his husband. Both of them becomes emotional after every fight. Slowly the way his husband blames her for doubting him my friend literally started hating herself for not trusting his husband. She stopped thinking and started following his husband words.
With these love and fights they spent a few years together. In these few years, She became mentally weak. she doesn’t have family to share her pain, friends(we) used to scold and shout at her for trusting his husband. So my friend doesn’t even feel to share with friends(us), family anyone. At some point of time she became completely lonely and my friend doesn’t even feel to talk to his husband about her loneliness because his husband used to feel bad that all these things are happening to my friend its because of him. so she stopped telling her pain to his husband but he used to understand even my friend silence.
Even though my friend used to feel alone because his husband used to go to his parents home for months and my friend is used to stay alone and wait for his husband call/message to talk and share. But his husband becomes so busy after going home that he won’t even have 5mins for his wife. She used to cry alone every night by missing his husband. Because of her loneliness, she started getting anger issues.
But still my friend was happy because of his husband. Even after many fights. my friend will be waiting for his husband and go in search of him and tell sorry for misunderstanding, he also used to be with her no matter how many fights. If she feels low and didn’t eat food his husband used to feed her with his hands and shows his care and love by shouting at her for not taking care of herself, he used to take her out to make his wife happy, spends more time with her, and used to hold her hand Infront of everyone, he becomes possessive and protective about his wife. His husband has became her both strength and more weakness. She loves his husband more than anything in the world and mostly she trusts him. She doesn’t listen to his friends, family, well-wishers and trusted him because he is everything to her without him she is not even ready to live her life. But I have to tell you one thing here “If a girl loves more than a boy it will Undoubtedly ends bad” and here it comes.
One day one call one message changed 3 people’s life. you might be thinking who is these 3rd person right go ahead and read it and find out. My friend got a call from an unknown number. She answered the call but unable to hear anything because of network issue and the other side a lady is taking. Then suddenly she got call from his husband with so much tension in his voice but my friend wasn’t able to hear anything because of network issue. Then she got a text from the lady that she is asking about the relationship status between my friend and his husband. That unknown number is his ex-gf and all doubts on his husband are true that they are in relationship from so long silently without knowing his wife.
That lady has called my friend and told everything about their relationship and u know my friend is a Bad person in the story between his ex-gf and husband relationship. His husband made her wife as a characterless person Infront of his ex-gf. Even after listening to everything my friend still had trust and called his husband and asked about it whether it’s true or not and told that someone is calling and telling that u r in relationship with her then what am I she asked, no answer for it complete silence from his husband. Literally that’s the day She felt the pain of heart,her heart is hardly beating and unable to take breath also. That silence from his husband made my friend anger and asked about the truth and for the answer from his husband. Then his husband reply is that, he is still having feelings for his ex-gf like he has for my friend and he want his ex-gf in his life again. so my friend is so f**king emotional person has decided to lie to his gf, that their is “no any relationship btw his husband and her, we are just friends” she told. But the lady is so smart she asked my friend, which type of friends call his friend as husband. So that lady has seen a chat between them and got my friend number and called her. she told all the story. It made my friend more anger and she lose words on his husband but his husband is still blaming her for her anger without understanding her pain.
My friend was not able to digest the truth that his husband has cheated her and make her characterless person Infront of everyone. She was not able to stay without his husband and she wanted to know why his husband did these to her? My friend is an idiot in pain, she called his siblings, crying out loud and told everything what happened and they told the entire family and started mentally killing her everyday with their words and actions. But still my friend just wanted to know why his husband did all these things to her? For the last time my friend called his husband to know why he did that to her, she is literally crying from the past 2days,his husband answered her call and my friend started asking “For what you did this to me,y u cheated and lied to me ” and u know his reply is that “we are having fights so I did these” and he cut the call and block my friend. After that my friend tried calling his husband but he blocked her so with all that pain and family words actions has made my friend end her life forever. RIP MY FRIEND. You understand now right why I said my friend is an dumbest person.
I just wanted to say one thing. See trust people but don’t fool urself in the processing of trusting people. If u have any doubts about that person just go and ask, talk with an open heart. Never feel bad about getting doubt on a person because it’s just human nature to think in all possibilities and doubt is one of the possibilities that it might occur with fear of losing, pain, not getting valued, used, played and many more situations. Even after talking if it same and if it hurting you then its time to stop and move on.
And I wanted to tell one more quote that I have heard, “Never be a bandage to a wound; they will only throw you away once it’s healed.“
I really miss my friend so much and u know if she is listening I wanted to tell, u r dumbest person. I really hate you for taking such a stupid decision bcz I miss you idiot so much that you will never even understand idiot.
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